Underestimating the importance of a stylish look is a fatal flaw that too many men make without even realizing it.
While a guy doesn’t have to be a fashionista, he does have to dress in a way that plays up his best features and downplays his negative ones. If he is too lazy to do this, a girl will dismiss him almost instantly, even if he is in other aspects the perfect guy for him.
First impressions do count. Wearing the wrong size or sloppy, wrinkled, stained clothes are broadcasting that you don’t give a crap about yourself. Not the impression you want to send to that cute girl.
Women notice what a guy is wearing. They notice and they form impressions. You need to be fashionable. Period. Too many guys just don’t get that. They think they will win her over with their sexiness or wit or intelligence. Not usually.
So, if you want to be successful with the ladies, you better dress the part.
On a budget? No worries. You can still do it. It’s about quality over quantity.
Here is the game plan.
First, go through every item of clothing you own. Throw away (or donate) anything you haven’t worn in a year (unless it’s a tux). Throw away everything that no longer fits. Or donate it if it’s in good shape. Throw away everything that is ripped, missing a button, falling apart, stained, etc. If it is something special that you love, say your favorite dress shirt that is missing a button, then go get it fixed immediately.
Now, try on what is left. Be brutally critical at what you see in the mirror. If it doesn’t make you look great — not good — GREAT, then toss it.
If you end up with nothing but your skivvies, then we’ll deal with that. But first be as honest as you can. Think of it this way: When you look in the mirror, do you say, “YES!” and growl like a tiger? If not, toss. If you say, “Well, it doesn’t fit that great, but matches my brown pants” — Toss.
Note: These are your going out clothes. Keep a bare basic work wardrobe separate. Unless you are lucky enough to wear whatever you want to work, then that’s different.
So, look carefully at what remains of your clothing. Examine why you like the items you kept. Was it the color green on that shirt that makes your eyes pop? Was it the fit of those jeans that make you look ten pounds less? Was it that cool tee shirt that accents your abs?
Then only wear those items when you go out.
If you find you have nothing. Then that calls for radical plan B.
Plan B involves going to a fashionable store and investing in the bare basics wardrobe that I will recommend here. It must be a high fashion store because you are going to hit up the salesclerk for honest advice. You want them to tell you which jeans are better on you and which shirt is better and so on. Even if you can’t afford to shop there, you will get an education.
So, those with empty wardrobes need to buy these items only as their bare basics and they can later add to them: Great fitting jeans, dark wash. A black or dark colored button up shirt that fits you like a dream. A black or dark colored tee shirt that flatters your build. A rocking belt. Some timeless, non-trendy but stylish shoes. A leather jacket of very stylish jacket. That’s it. You’re set. Go get ‘em, tiger.