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The Importance Of A Stylish Look

admin — Thu, 20 Dec 2012 20:00:51 +0000

Underestimating the importance of a stylish look is a fatal flaw that too many men make without even realizing it.

While a guy doesn’t have to be a fashionista, he does have to dress in a way that plays up his best features and downplays his negative ones. If he is too lazy to do this, a girl will dismiss him almost instantly, even if he is in other aspects the perfect guy for him.

First impressions do count. Wearing the wrong size or sloppy, wrinkled, stained clothes are broadcasting that you don’t give a crap about yourself. Not the impression you want to send to that cute girl.

Women notice what a guy is wearing. They notice and they form impressions. If you want to know how to attract women, then you need to be fashionable. Period. Too many guys just don’t get that. They think they will win her over with their sexiness or wit or intelligence. Not usually.

So, if you want to be successful with the ladies, you better dress the part.

Here’s how.

On a budget? No worries. You can still do it. It’s about quality over quantity.

Here is the game plan.

First, go through every item of clothing you own. Throw away (or donate) anything you haven’t worn in a year (unless it’s a tux). Throw away everything that no longer fits. Or donate it if it’s in good shape. Throw away everything that is ripped, missing a button, falling apart, stained, etc. If it is something special that you love, say your favorite dress shirt that is missing a button, then go get it fixed immediately.

Now, try on what is left. Be brutally critical at what you see in the mirror. If it doesn’t make you look great — not good — GREAT, then toss it.

If you end up with nothing but your skivvies, then we’ll deal with that. But first be as honest as you can. Think of it this way: When you look in the mirror, do you say, “YES!” and growl like a tiger? If not, toss. If you say, “Well, it doesn’t fit that great, but matches my brown pants” — Toss.

Note: These are your going out clothes. Keep a bare basic work wardrobe separate. Unless you are lucky enough to wear whatever you want to work, then that’s different.

So, look carefully at what remains of your clothing. Examine why you like the items you kept. Was it the color green on that shirt that makes your eyes pop? Was it the fit of those jeans that make you look ten pounds less? Was it that cool tee shirt that accents your abs?

Then only wear those items when you go out.

If you find you have nothing. Then that calls for radical plan B.

Plan B involves going to a fashionable store and investing in the bare basics wardrobe that I will recommend here. It must be a high fashion store because you are going to hit up the salesclerk for honest advice. You want them to tell you which jeans are better on you and which shirt is better and so on. Even if you can’t afford to shop there, you will get an education.

So, those with empty wardrobes need to buy these items only as their bare basics and they can later add to them: Great fitting jeans, dark wash. A black or dark colored button up shirt that fits you like a dream. A black or dark colored tee shirt that flatters your build. A rocking belt. Some timeless, non-trendy but stylish shoes. A leather jacket of very stylish jacket. That’s it. You’re set. Go get ‘em, tiger.

Proven Dating Advice For Guys

admin — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 18:34:44 +0000

The best dating advice can be summed up as follows: meet women often, be positive and funny, create attraction, close the deal, keep things exciting and do not be a wuss. You need to have some faith because this dating advice has been proven to work. Below, this proven dating advice for guys is expanded upon in greater detail.

Meet women every day.Think about some places that you go all the time: the supermarket, coffee shop, takeout place, gym, etc. Are these all places where you are likely to find women? That is a good start. Since you know these places so well, it should not be difficult to find common topics to talk about.

Be positive in your body language. If you saw a woman walking down the street with her eyes toward the ground, frown on her face and hands in her pockets, would you want to talk to her? Hold your head up and smile more. Women are attracted to that.

The next step is to observe what is happening around you. Maybe you are at the grocery store and the line is really slow. You and the woman behind you make small talk about this and suddenly you are in an actual conversation with her. Talk to every woman that gives you eye contact. The more you give, the more you get.

Close the deal.

You and an attractive woman are having a good conversation. Before you close the deal, you need to create attraction. Start by teasing her. If she has a big purse, say, “Are you carrying a small child in there?” Let her ask all of the questions and have some witty responses ready. Inevitably, she will ask you, “What do you do for work?” Say something funny like, “It’s interesting that you should ask that. I’m an underwear model.”

Do not try to get kisses, dates or sex. Just get her phone number and move on. Make sure that you are the one that closes the conversation. Wait a day or two and call her (if you decide to text her, read this first). Do not let the phone conversation go on too long. Ask how she is doing and quickly make plans for a first date.

Do not pay for everything.

If you make plans for the common first date of dinner and a movie, then you are setting yourself up to fail. You will feel obligated to pay for everything and set up an unconscious expectation from your date. Eventually, she will decide that you are a wuss and become uninterested. Tell her that there is an art show that you have been meaning to check out, ask her to accompany you on your errands or see if she is interested in joining you at a party that your friend is having.

Avoid boring conversation.

When you are on a first date, it is easy to talk about about neutral topics like work history, favorite colors and where you grew up. One of the most boring questions you can ask a girl is, “What do you do for a living?” You can still find out what you want to know by adding a little flair to the conversation. Instead, say, “I’ll bet you’re a teacher.” There is a good chance that she is not a teacher but this approach will definitely engage your date.

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Always have a few entertaining stories in your back pocket. Maybe you have a story about how your dad accidentally got into someone else’s car. Do not just say, “One day, I dropped my dad off at the post office. I was waiting for him to come out when I noticed someone with my same exact car parked right in front of me. Well, my dad came out and got into the wrong car. It was so crazy.” Add excitement to the story. Talk about how you were on vacation, the looks on everyone else’s faces, what the driver said to your father and the dressed-up poodle in the driver’s backseat.

Finally, avoid the following topics: religion, politics, the weather, bad past relationships and anything else that is negative. If you follow this dating advice, you will easily get more dates.

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Best Ways To Get A Date

admin — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 17:34:54 +0000

Ultimately, the goal all single men on the prowl have is to arrange a one-on-one meeting with a woman, what is often called a date. (There may be other goals during or after that one-on-one meeting that will be covered in other articles, but let’s just address getting that first date. First things first, right.

Best Ways to Get a Date Step #1

1. Get off your butt. Sitting at home on the couch, eating potato chips and watching cop show reruns is about the furthest thing away from learning how to attract girls, let alone getting a date. Unless you put yourself out there and make some effort, you probably have zero chance of meeting a girl. So, the first step is to get out of the house as often as possible. Here are ways to do that:
* Increase your circle of friends so you have an active social life
* Join a club that allows you to pursue your interests
* Visit places where people like to frequent, such a bookstores, museums, and sports events.
* Join a sports team, such as volleyball. Or if you were not athletic, something such as joining a chess team would work equally as well.

These are just a few ideas to get you out there.

Best Ways to Get a Date Step #2

2. The second step in getting a date is to actually walk up to a girl, what we like to call approaching a girl. So, say you are at the bookstore and see a really interesting girl in the horticulture section. Your next step is going to e approaching her.

Before you approach a girl, you should know a little bit about body language. If she has very closed off body language, you might want to choose another woman to approach.

If you are at a party and you see a woman across the room you are interested in approaching, you can feel out her openness by making eye contact and even smiling at her. If she gives you a dirty look at looks away, steer clear. But if she makes brief eye contact, that make be a good sign. If she gives you a little smile, that is a green light to approach. Don’t’ tarry or you may lose your chance.

Best Ways to Get a Date Step #3

3. Strike up a conversation. Once you get the green light, don’t waste anytime in walking up to her. A lot of guys get caught up in how to be super entertaining at this point, but that isn’t always necessary. Sometimes the most effective approach is a simple hello.

It does help if you have practiced your conversational skills with others so you aren’t completely tongue-tied. But remember, even if you are naturally shy, give it a shot. Many women think that a guy who is a bit shy is cute.

Best Ways to Get a Date Step #4

4. Get her phone number.

I usually like the most direct and simplest approach to do this. I’ve already established the groundwork, by saying (shortly after I’ve approached her) that I can only stick around for a few minutes because my friends and I are leaving.

Then after a few minutes of conversation, I say, “Give me your phone. I’d like to continue this conversation at a later time.”

Put your number in her phone. Test it out by calling your cell and then say goodbye.

Best Ways to Get a Date Step #5

5. Call her about two days later and arrange a meeting.
Voila. Simple.

What To Do To Make A Girl Smile

admin — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 21:12:35 +0000

If you want to become a master at attracting girls, you need to learn how to make a girl smile. Below are 3 great tips that will show you exactly how to make a girl smile.

What To Do To Make A Girl Smile Tip #2

1. The first way a guy should try to make a girl smile is actually the simplest: Smile at her first. This accomplishes several things. It shows you immediately if she is uptight, closed, and guarded and maybe a witch with a “b” or if she is a nicer, more open, approachable person.

Very few people can resist responding to a genuine smile. If a woman does resist smiling back, it’s best to back off and try someone else. She might be damaged goods of she might just be having a horrific day and won’t be open to anything you have to say or do anyway.

So, go ahead and give this a shot. It helps weed out the women you should approach and the women you should just leave alone.

What To Do To Make A Girl Smile Tip #2

2. Be funny. If you show your light-hearted side for a few seconds, that often is enough to make a girl smile. It accomplishes several things. It allows her to get a glimpse of your vulnerable side. It shows that even though you may be projecting an aura of super alpha male, it shows you are sensitive and approachable. It makes you less intimidating and easier to relate to. It also shows you have a fun side to you. There is almost nothing bad about being funny.

What To Do To Make A Girl Smile Tip #3
3. If you want to make a girl smile, it often helps to know something entertaining, such as a simple magic trick or engaging story. You only need to know one. Practice it and perfect it on everyone you know. Then when you meet a woman, try it out on her. If you have seen that it makes everyone else you’ve tried it on smile, but doesn’t make her crack a smile, too, that might be a way to weed out someone who just won’t be a good fit for you.

What To Do To Make A Girl Smile Tip #4
4. Making a girl smile often is a result of some well-honed, gentle teasing. Teasing is one of the most important skills a single guy can learn. There is a fine line between mean-spirited teasing and teasing that builds attraction. Take some time right now to learn the difference.

When you tease and flirt with a woman, you are accomplishing several important goals at once in the dating arena. You are showing that you are confident. You are letting her know that you don’t place her on a pedestal like other men might do. You are showing that you have a good sense of humor and can poke fun, not only at her, but also at yourself.
It also shows you have a good outlook on life and can see the humor in situations.

In closing, the ability to make a girl smile is going to give you an edge on every other man out there who is striving to capture her attention.

Common Sense Advice for Texting Girls

admin — Tue, 28 Jun 2011 00:51:34 +0000

You went out to the club last night, had successful closings with several attractive girls and now you are wondering when it is okay to start texting girls. If you want to start texting girls that you have met, there are social guidelines that you need to know in order to make progress.

When should you text her?

Whenever possible, you should call her. You got her phone number; the hard part is over. If you text her in lieu of calling her, the probability of actually getting that first date will decrease significantly. You need to continue building good rapport with her. In doing this, you will make her more comfortable when you meet up. This is more difficult to accomplish via text than it is over the phone. Texting also leaves room for misinterpretation. For example, sarcasm is more easily understood on a verbal level.

There are three situations where it is acceptable to text her. First, if you call her and reach her voice mail, then it is okay to text her. Second, if she texts you first, then you can text her back. Third, you can start the conversation via text message if you tell her that you want to get on the phone with her.

What should you say?

Be witty like a pick up artist; show her that you do not take anything too seriously. Work on establishing banter with her. You will bore her if you ask her, “What’s up?” Remind her of a joke that the two of you shared when you first met. You could also be playful by sending a message like, “Hey, I just saw this old guy with tube socks up to his knees and thought of you.” (Want more examples? Check out TextingSecrets.com for more).

To ensure that she responds to your first text, try texting her when you first meet and are in the midst of that first attraction-building stage. She will think this is funny and then your contact information will already be in her phone. This way, she will remember you when you text her later and she will be more apt to answer her phone when you call.

The most critical rule to remember is: Do not text her too often. If she texts you, always wait at least a few minutes before texting her back. If you text her and she does not text you back, wait until the next day before trying to reconnect with her. Remember to keep the conversation light. Finally, do not be too wordy with your text messages.

“Who is this?”

You have sent her that first text. Your phone beeps with her response: “Who is this?” This is not the lighthearted exchange you were hoping for. You can still recover, though. Just be playful. Respond with something silly like, “Well, I got that surgery so I’m down 500 pounds since we met on Saturday.” She will respond with something like, “You’re too funny. I don’t remember meeting any husky guys this weekend.” You can extend the banter by saying, “The doctor tried to remove my third eye but had no success.”

By not taking yourself too seriously, you will make her comfortable. When you start making plans for a date, you can continue the dialogue by saying, “I should be easy to find because I’ll be the only guy there with three eyes.”

If she does not remember you and asks what you look like, do not send her a picture of yourself. Do not describe yourself, either. Why? There is almost a 100% chance that you will never hear from her again. Remain witty and unpredictable. There is no shame in telling her about your imaginary 500 pounds of extra baggage or your third ear. This will hold her interest and increase your probability of landing that first date.

If you do not remember everything you have read here, it is only important to remember a few things when you are texting girls. Never take yourself too seriously, keep the conversation light, establish banter and do not be upset if she does not remember you. Texting girls can lead to lots of dates if you do it right.

The Easiest Way to Get a Girlfriend

admin — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 17:56:40 +0000

By this point, you may have mastered the art of picking up women and have had a number of successful dates as a result. Maybe you want something more substantial than a one-time connection. Once you have a good grasp of how to open, close and go on dates with women, you are ready to learn how to get a girlfriend.

Step 1: Define what makes a good girlfriend.

At the core of the law of attraction is the idea that you get exactly what you give to the universe. Think about what would make someone a great girlfriend. Maybe you need a beautiful woman who is intelligent, sexual and independent. Defining this for yourself will give you something worthwhile to say when someone in your social network asks, “What are you looking for in a girlfriend?” Making a short list will also help you to quickly identify any women that fit within your parameters as you meet them.

Also, make sure that you have dated enough women to know what you want in a girlfriend. This will let you hone in on the important qualities that you had not thought about before. It will also help you to rule out the traits that are not as important as you once thought. Give serious consideration to these traits and do not just let yourself fall into a relationship with the first woman that wants one. It is much better for you to be alone than to be in a relationship with the wrong girl.

Step 2: Expand your network.

First and foremost, you need to stop thinking about how much you want a girlfriend right now. The more you think about wanting a girlfriend, the more elusive it will become. Concentrate on your next step only.

Focus on your social network. Having more people in your network will ultimately lead you to your goal. In the meantime, being able to connect with more people will make you less lonely. Start by reaching out to your current network of friends.

Meet up with your friends one by one for drinks or dinner. Make an honest effort to connect with them; find out what they are doing with their lives and develop good rapport with them. Before you part ways, make sure that they know how to reach you — give them your cell phone number, Facebook address and email address. Ask them to invite you to any parties or social gatherings.

As you start going to events, keep networking. You never know how you will meet that special someone. She could be a friend of a friend, the daughter of a coworker, the sister of the pitcher on your softball team or a girl you met at a party.

Step 3: Keep dating.

Identify which dating methods work for you. Viable options include online dating, speed dating, parties, social events, social networking and approaching women at everyday places like the supermarket. Pick a few of these methods and stick to them. If you want to find out how to get a girlfriend, then go on as many first dates as you can. This will help you filter out the personality types that do not mesh well with yours. On the positive side, it will also help you refine your list of qualities that you would love to have in a girlfriend.

Step 4: You are dating her. What do you do now?

Women are attracted to alpha males, so avoid being clingy. If you are really interested in making a woman your girlfriend, then date her for at least a few months without bringing up the subject. Keep yourself unpredictable. Stand by your opinions even when she disagrees, plan unconventional dates and, while you might see her a few times per week, do not make yourself too available. This will build attraction between the two of you.

Figuring out how to get a girlfriend is not rocket science as long as you know what you want, network a lot and stay in the dating game. Soon enough, you will know when you have girlfriend material and will no longer have to ask yourself how to get a girlfriend.

Critical Fashion Tips for Guys

admin — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 17:54:31 +0000

The rules of male fashion can seem arbitrary sometimes (if you want to read more about how to be an attractive man, check out this section on how to pick up women). Growing up, you were probably told that brown matched everything. As it turns out, brown dress pants with black shoes are a mismatch. Below are critical fashion tips that every guy should know.

Investing in Quality Shoes

If you do not already have nice shoes, buy leather shoes — one black pair and one brown pair will do. Take good care of them: Polish them on a regular basis, store them in a cedar shoe tree to retain their moisture and keep them covered if you will not be wearing them for a while. Oxfords, ankle-high boots and loafers are all respectable choices. The shinier your shoes are, the more suitable they are to wear with a dressy outfit.

Match your socks to your shoes. Your shoes should also closely match your pants. The exception to this rule is that you may wear black shoes with brown slacks. Never, ever wear white socks with anything other than sneakers. Decent shoes are an essential component of male fashion because women pay attention to men’s shoes on dates and interviewers pay attention to shoes as well.

A Few Tips on Pants

When you purchase pants, try them on to see where they fall. When you stand without your shoes on, the pants should almost touch the ground. Cuffs are acceptable but most young men do not buy pants with 1″–1.5″ cuffs. While there is nothing wrong with it per se, cuffs are considered to be a more distinguished look that is characteristic of older men. As far as pleats are concerned, they are usually unnecessary. For pants that need a pleat, just maintain the one crease that the pants had when you got them. Finally, wear your pants at your waist. If you wear them too high, then you will look like a geek. If you wear them too low, then you will look like a 14-year-old.

Dress Shirts and T-Shirts

If you wear a dress shirt, it is always okay to unbutton the top button and it is usually okay to unbutton the second one. If you need to unbutton your collar, make sure to remove your tie or you will look messy. Make sure that ¼” to ½” of your shirt sleeve shows beyond the sleeve of your jacket.

It is important to match your top and bottom halves. If you are wearing jeans, do not wear a crisp dress shirt with them. Likewise, if you are wearing silk trousers, do not wear a bulky sweater. A V-neck tee or tasteful graphic t-shirt is acceptable. However, if you want to make a good impression on someone, then steer away from shirts that look like billboard advertisements for their manufacturers.

Sports Coats and Suit Jackets

It is okay to wear a sports coat without a tie. For dress suit jackets with three buttons, always button the middle one. It is okay to button the top one but that is not necessary. Never button the bottom one.

Suiting up

Any male fashion guru will advise you to have three suits in your wardrobe. One suit should be either gray or navy blue, and should be suitable for all seasons and a variety of social gatherings. Another suit should be black and appropriate for black-tie events. The third suit and any others that you purchase can express your individuality; unusual colors and pinstripes come to mind. A sales representative can help you make decisions on thread count and material. Fold a handkerchief into a square, place it in your jacket’s front pocket and keep ¼” to ½” sticking out from the top.

Accessorizing

Match your belt to your shoes and check that your tie reaches your belt. Put a limit on any special items such as fedoras, bracelets or classy wristwatches. One of these items is fine and can serve as a solid conversation starter.

There are a lot of nuances in male fashion. Not everyone knows that some of these trends were started hundreds of years ago. If you follow these tips, you will look very well put together and make a favorable impression on women that you meet every day. And that first impression is necessary as you are going to have lot’s of women wanting to talk to you.. but before you talk to them – I want you to read some posts on how to flirt with women.

Secrets to Meeting Girls on Facebook

admin — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 17:39:41 +0000

In addition to meeting girls in real life at places like bars and supermarkets, you can also meet girls on Facebook. A skilled pickup artist knows the difference between being witty and being creepy. He also knows how to escalate a rapport online. Read on for tips on how to meet girls on Facebook.

The Perfect Profile

Before you meet girls on Facebook, you need to make sure that your profile showcases your best qualities. Post a variety of flattering pictures of yourself: photos where you are having a fun time, serious, in a group, alone, close up and at a distance. Make sure that you are not wearing the same shirt in half the pictures.

Post pictures of varied environments: you at the beach, with people at a party, at home with your dog, etc. Why should you spend so much time on the photos? When girls look at a profile, the first things they do is look through your pictures.

They will size you up quickly and many of them will not even read your profile. Post pictures of you in group shots and tag every woman you know. Then these ladies will comment on the pictures and, eventually, women that you do not know will comment on them as well. You also want to keep any wording on your profile short and to the point. Nobody wants to feel like they are reading a novel. Do not be negative in your status updates or comments; make sure your profile stays positive and funny. Finally, you need social proof that you are awesome. Post pictures of you with other women.

Make sure that you have a lot of attractive women on your friends list, too. There is no need to go overboard and send out a bunch of friends requests to friends of friends. As you build rapport with women in real life, ask if you can add them to your friends list on Facebook. This social proof will make you desirable to women in whom you may be interested later. If you poked a woman and you had five Facebook friends, it could come across as desperate and creepy. Finally, stay active on Facebook. What girl is going to respond to a poke from a guy whose last status update was from 2008? Your profile is a marketing tool.

Connecting for the First Time

There are a couple of ways that you can connect with a woman over Facebook. Many girls keep their profile settings private so your options may be limited. The first option is to poke her. Ideally, she will then check out your perfect profile. When she pokes you back, send her a flirty private message. Say, “Did you just poke my armpit? That tickled!” A quick joke should open up the conversation. It seems silly but this could lead to a genuine rapport with her. The other option is to send her a private message not unlike a pua opener. Read her profile first. Perhaps there is a band that you both like that you can incorporate into that first message. You can say, “You don’t seem like you would like Dispatch. What do you know about them?” Alternatively, you can tease her by saying, “It looks like you might have a Facebook addiction.” Above all else, keep it interesting. A boring private message would be, “Hey, I like Dispatch too. Did you see them on tour this month?” After a couple of short exchanges, ask for her phone number.

Organizing Gatherings

By now, maybe you have a few exchanges in progress. It is time to send out invites for events that you are hosting or attending. Obviously, you will invite girls in whom you are interested. You can also post a status update about which club you are going to that night and ask who wants to go. As an alternative, post a status asking what everyone’s plans are for the evening. When a woman responds, send her a private message to iron out the details. With the right profile and some planning, you can meet girls on Facebook on a regular basis.

How A Guy Should Flirt With Girls

admin — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 15:01:09 +0000

You can reap major rewards if you approach women the right way. When you decipher the signals, keep the conversation playful, stay confident and practice flirting with every opportunity that you get, flirting with girls will come naturally to you.

First, consider the location. Flirting with girls in places other than clubs and bars will catch them off guard because it is unexpected (remember, you can practice flirting with girls on Facebook). At a club, women have their guards up because men have been hitting on them all night. While it is fine to flirt with women at the usual places, there is merit in flirting with girls at the coffee shop or grocery store. Before talking to a woman anywhere, look for signs in body language that tell you she is receptive. Maybe the two of you are exchanging furtive glances or she is playing with her hair. Do not let this phase go on too long, though; she will perceive that as creepy.

When approaching her, keep the conversation light and playful. Women are turned off by men that make strong advances. Perhaps you are both in the medical supplies aisle and you see her examining the Ace bandages. You could joke about how she could use one as a belt and start a new trend. As the conversation continues, you could introduce kino, or touching. For example, lightly touch her shoulder as you make a point. Kino escalates the conversation to the next level.

Another way to keep the conversation flirtatious is to talk about a breakup before you have gotten acquainted with a woman. You are out to dinner with a friend and ask the waitress for something that you know the restaurant does not serve — for example, tacos at an Italian restaurant. Of course, she responds that they do not have tacos. You then say, “Okay, this is not working out. I need to break up with you.” The goal is to make her laugh.

You can also take the joking a step further and use a sassy introduction. If there is a gorgeous girl at the bar, you could say something like, “Hi. I saw you over here and felt sorry for you because you look shy. I’m sure you never get attention from men so I wanted to come over here and give you some attention.” Obviously, this is meant to be playful because she probably gets plenty of attention from men. She will be more open to talking with you if you keep the conversation light.

The best thing you can do to lower your anxiety is to flirt with girls everywhere. Flirt with every woman that crosses your path, whether or not you are interested. Pick up a new hobby or join an organized sport to meet even more women. Do not think about the outcome when you flirt. The more you think about what you might get, the more you will botch any attempts that you make. Flirt for fun and do this for a while before you attempt to flirt with girls in whom you are truly interested. This will give you a chance to build your confidence.

Once you have mastered this and a woman raises your interest, there are a couple of things to remember. Firstly, do not be submissive. Secondly, do not be predictable. That means that you should never follow a woman around like a puppy dog. Close the conversation, leave for a while and come back later. You should have an air or excitement about you. Girls do not want men that are just like them; they want someone that has beliefs and opinions of their own. Even if a girl disagrees with you about something, maintain your stance. She will be attracted to that quality.

However you start the conversation, always maintain eye contact and stay confident. Above all, make sure that you close the conversation before the woman gets the chance to do so. This lets you keep your alpha status, a quality that will attract women to you. If you keep it playful, flirting with girls will become a second language to you — putting you on the road to becoming a master pickup artist.

How To Pick Up Women

admin — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 14:59:03 +0000

It is not as difficult for you to pick up women as you might think. The most effective way for you to pick up women is to man up and forget your doubts. Below is a tried and true action plan.

Before the Approach: Gauging Potential Success

Before approaching a woman, pay attention to what she is doing. Look for visual cues in order to determine your potential level of success. From a distance, try to establish eye contact. Does she hold your gaze? Is she smiling? Those are promising signs. Is she avoiding your gaze? Is she talking to her friends or is she looking around at men in the room? If she is looking around the room, there is a higher chance of her being receptive.

Openers: Making the First Impression

Once you have decided that your intended target will be receptive, it is time to approach her with your pickup artist opener — also known as a PUA opener.

There are several types of PUA openers. The opinion opener is a very low-pressure way to ease into a dialogue.

You could say, “My buddy and I were just talking about something and we need a female perspective. Did you know that the average American woman is 5′4″ and wears a size 14?”

If you want to project more confidence, use a direct opener. Keep yourself out of the friend zone by saying something like, “You really are stunning. I had to come over here to meet you.” This displays high-level confidence and takes the woman’s guesswork out of the equation. She does not need to ask herself, “Is he interested?”

If she is with friends, never express interest in them. If you hit on more than one woman in the same group, your intended target will not feel special. Also, do not be afraid to compliment her, even if you think that she has heard it all before. By being genuine, you will make yourself stand out from every other guy who has approached her.

Body Language: Making It Work for You

You have opened the conversation and everything is going well. Now it is time to escalate. That does not mean that you should lunge in and kiss the girl. You need to get closer to her. However, do not completely lean in to talk into her ear, even if you are in a noisy club. This will break eye contact. Likely, she will then look around the room, become disengaged from the conversation and leave.

Instead, start by slowing down the conversation. Add more pauses to your speech and look at her lips more often. To close the gap, slowly walk toward her as the two of you continue to talk. Things are going very well if her speech starts to slow down and she forgets what she was going to say. You can lean in slightly to listen to her, but maintain eye contact. If you are feeling bold, put your arm around her shoulders as you talk, leaning in just enough to let your cheek touch hers. This is a subtle way to build sexual tension.

Closing: Leave Her Wanting More

If you hope to get a woman’s phone number or set up a date, then you need to close the deal. Do not mince words or over-think this. Simply say, “You seem cool. Let me get your number so we can go out for coffee some time.” Then give her your phone or a piece of paper. Another option is to find out her hobbies and set up a date to do one of those activities together right then and there. When you pick up women, it is crucial that you close properly.

The Bottom Line

Be confident when you pick up women. The recipe for this is two parts confidence and one part persistence. You may find that some women are attached, others are not interested in men and some women have other reasons for being uninterested. If things do not go your way, the most important thing for you to do is to move on. Do not obsess and do not let rejection deter you from approaching women.